Eliminating Guilt

Today I’d like to start with an item that didn’t make it on last week’s list but that’s at the core of why many of us don’t write. It’s the guilt we feel when we’re writing and we think we should be doing something else, the guilt we feel when we refuse other activities in order to write. It’s particularly acute when dealing with family and close friends, or when faced with the many tasks of running a business.

This guilt is a double edged sword because most of us also feel guilty when we don’t write. But this guilt does us no good. It weighs us down and we spend time focused on being guilty that could be spent working on our writing, or doing all the other things on our task list.

It’s easy to get down on yourself, but you can’t do everything, so instead you have to eliminate guilt. You need to stop feeling guilty every time you say ‘no’. You need to stop feeling guilty about the time you spend writing. You need to do what feels best for you. Focus on yourself before agreeing to do anything for anyone else. You’ll be amazed at how much happier you’ve become.

To help you get around this guilt, I’ve created a list of reasons why you should write. Refer to this list whenever you’re feeling guilty about the time you take out of your day for writing or create your own and put it somewhere easy to see. It might not eliminate all your guilt, but it will at least be a happy reminder of why writing is important.

Without further ado…

Reasons To Make Time for Writing

1. Writing nourishes the soul–journaling can obviously be a great outlet for your emotions and an interesting way to discover yourself, but all forms of writing can help you do the same thing. Writing of any sort is intellectually stimulating and it makes you slow down and think, which allows you to grow as a person.

2.You’ll be happier–Regularly sitting down and doing something you love will make you happier. Having a healthy outlet for your emotions and a place where you can keep your secrets safely will make you happier. Someday reading your work to someone else and knowing that they enjoyed it will make you happier. And who doesn’t want to be happier?

3. You need to finish something–You may dream of a writing career with fame and fortune and many adoring readers, but you’ll never achieve even a fraction of the success if you don’t finish something. In fact, you can’t really call yourself a writer until you’ve finished something. There’s something simultaneously humbling and invigorating about finishing a book length project. It gives you a new respect for authors–and for yourself.

4. Your dreams are important–Often we are told to push aside our dreams. They aren’t realistic, we’re told. We’re told it’s impossible, that instead of following our dreams we should just hope to have a good, steady job. We should become a doctor or a lawyer. Working to become an artist, a writer, an entrepreneur, that’s crazy, irresponsible, and stupid. So we’re told. That’s been the paradigm for pretty much the entire industrial age. But your dreams are important. It’s important to be doing work you love, since you’ll spend a good chunk of your lifetime working. Not only that, but in today’s economy, jobs aren’t what they once were. Even the most stable job is subject to total annihilation. At this point, the normal job seekers are no less insane than we are.

5. It can help you build other good habits–Learning to establish habits–at least good ones–is hard. Anyone who’s ever tried a diet knows that. Still, like everything else, this goes easier each time you do it. Once you’ve found a way to implement a regular writing habit, you’ll know the keys to get yourself motivated on creating all those other habits you’re supposed to have. Like, you know, exercising. (It’s okay, I don’t do enough of that either.)

Conclusion

Remember, you’re not superman(or superwoman). You can’t do it all. You have to make priorities. You have to be selective about what you do in your spare time. We all do. No matter how much we might wish for an extra four hours in our day, there will always be twenty-four. No more, no less.

In ten years, what will you regret? Will it be not spending enough time running errands for your family? Will it be that you didn’t spend enough time gossiping? Or will it be that half-finished manuscript you left buried on your hard drive?

I think we all know the answer to that question.

What other reasons why writing is important can you think of?

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About Dianna Gunn

I am a freelance writer by day and a fantasy author by night. My first YA fantasy novella, Keeper of the Dawn, is available now through The Book Smugglers Publishing.

Posted on March 4, 2013, in Inspirational, Writing and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. Great post. I just followed you (:D) for two reasons; firstly is that number 3 is so true. People underestimate how much of an achievement it is to finish a novel, and it’s something you can always be proud of.

    The second one was because this ‘in today’s economy, jobs aren’t what they once were. Even the most stable job is subject to total annihilation. At this point, the normal job seekers are no less insane than we are.’ has been my personal philosophy for the past couple of years, and was the reason I decided to start my own business and actively pursue a writing career.

    • Hi Rewan,

      Welcome to Dianna’s Writing Den and thanks for following me. I’m thrilled that you enjoyed this post and that you’re actively pursuing a writing career. We might as well, right? I mean everybody else is miserable doing their jobs and they’re still likely to get laid off at any time.

      I hope you’ll stick around and stay involved.

      Thanks,
      ~Dianna

  2. Brianna Soloski

    This post couldn’t have come at a better time. Last Friday, I decided I would force myself to make time to write, knowing that eventually it will just become a daily habit. Right now, I’m using writing time as a reward for getting other things done during the day. I set goals for the other work I have to get done, then I give myself some time to write. It often means I start writing at 8 p.m., but I’ve actually been getting my best work done between 7 and 9. I gave up TV time, but that’s okay. Obviously, I’m still working on building up this becoming a habit, but I’m on the right track.

    • Brianna,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post. I’m even happier to hear that you’re making the commitment to writing. Personally I stopped having regular TV time ages ago. I prefer to spend my leisure time with actual people since I don’t get much of it–though once in a while I’ll spend a whole day playing video games.

      Thanks for stopping by,
      ~Dianna

      • Brianna Soloski

        I haven’t spent my leisure time with actual people in years. My close friends don’t live near me and I’m a hermit by nature. 🙂

  3. I’m a huge advocate to saying no. You’d be amazed at how many of my readers wonder how my writing is so prolific while at the same time saying they have no time to write.

    Hope Clark
    http://www.fundsforwriters.com
    http://www.chopeclark.com

    • Hope,

      Saying no is important. I’ve gotten pretty good at saying no, but sometimes it is a struggle. The one thing I might add is that when I’m offered a non-writing opportunity, I’ll usually take it–it never hurts to do more than one thing for income, and everything can complement your writing if you let it. But I don’t make long term commitments other than the one I have to my writing.

      Thanks for stopping by,
      ~Dianna

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